My last post on unique proposals got me thinking: can women propose too? I mean, of course they CAN propose, but is it becoming more socially acceptable for them to do so?
Look at this poster for the recent movie The Proposal:
An excellent movie by the way – very funny – but looking at the poster, one certainly gets the impression that when a woman proposes, it’s somehow unnatural – forced on the man. Of course, one could say that this is only the case for the specific movie where the woman most definitely forced the engagement on the man (at least at first).
Frankly, it had never occurred to me to propose. Without even thinking about it too much, I just knew that it was my now-husband’s role to propose, and mine to accept or decline.
I also suspect that in those cases where the woman ends up proposing, the proposal is very practical and not at all elaborate – something like “hey, why don’t we get married” and certainly not airplanes or scoreboards featuring romantic proposals!
What’s your take on the subject? Do you feel that in this case sticking with tradition is best and that the groom should propose, or is it OK if the bride proposes?
I may be in the minority here, but I never expected a “unique” proposal. I loved the way my husband had proposed – over an elegant dinner at our favorite restaurant. And no, he didn’t hide the ring in the dessert and I’m glad he didn’t – what if I had swallowed it by mistake?
I guess I’m an old-fashioned kinda gal, but I like to keep things classic.
However, I am quite aware of the fact that many grooms are looking for unique ways to propose, and that many brides are happy to receive a unique proposal!
If you’re looking for unique proposal ideas, here are a few:
1. Propose during a hot air balloon ride. Super romantic!
2. Propose on a billboard or on a scoreboard in a professional sports game. To avoid public humiliation, you need to be very sure she’s going to say yes!
3. Hire a plane to fly a banner with your proposal. This can get expensive, but is definitely impressive!
4. Propose during a romantic weekend in a fancy hotel. Arrange with the hotel in advance to have champagne, flowers etc. waiting for you in the room and get a suite if possible. Some hotels will give you a free upgrade if you tell them about your plans.
Whatever you do, my view on the proposal is just like my view on the wedding day: don’t get all worked up about it. It’s just the beginning of what will hopefully be a long, amazing journey of deep love and friendship.
PS. Tips above are for women who decide to propose too!
Photo by Lori Greig
We love winter weddings.
Sure, most people choose to get married in the spring, but we think that winter weddings are very romantic!
First of all, a winter wedding tells the world that you are so much in love with each other that you couldn’t possibly wait until the spring to get married! You had to do it NOW.
In addition, a winter wedding is celebrated indoors, which automatically turns it into a more elegant affair – and gives you a great excuse to wear a fabulous dress and to make it a black tie event.
A winter wedding reception can be a very cozy affair if you use candles and add soft textures in rich colors such as dark red velvet ribbon tied around the napkins. Winter is also a great time to serve hearty, decadent fare to your guests instead of the light fare that is so typical of spring and summer weddings.
Of course, a winter wedding can be very practical too – since it’s off-season for the wedding industry, you will likely be able to get a great deal on many items, especially on the venue and on hotel rooms. This can translate into some serious savings, which means a winter wedding is a great option if your budget is tight.
Photo by Corey Ann
